ZEN AND THE DIFFICULT WORKPLACE

Self-Compassion

His Holiness the Dalai Lama says that we must first be kind to ourselves.

“[C]ompassion is the state of wishing that the object of our compassion be free of suffering … Yourself first, and then in a more advanced way the aspiration will embrace other,” he said.

This is particularly true for targets of workplace abuse, who often suffer relentless attacks on their self-esteem and confidence. Many times targets of workplace abuse are superior employees who work hard and are well liked. This is why they are targeted in the first place. When things go wrong, they may blame themselves, even if the problems are entirely out of their control.

Transcend Your Boss: Zen and the Difficult Workplace, contains a chapter on self-compassion, explaining Zen theory and featuring various meditations created for workers in a difficult workplace.  Here is a reflection on self-compassion:

Reflection on Self-Compassion

First, let me be kind to myself.

Let me feel safe,

like a child in the light of a parent’s love.

I will be loving and kind to myself.

I am worthy of love and kindness.

Let me be happy with myself just as I am.

Like all human beings, I am both strong and frail.

Give me  the compassion to accept my imperfections.

I will be loving and kind to myself.

I am worthy of love and kindness.

Give me the strength to endure

the ignorance and cruelty of others

by showing loving kindness to myself.

I will be loving and kind to myself

for I am worthy of love and kindness.

This job does is not me.

My future is not rooted to this moment;

It is free like a bird on the wing.

I will be loving and kind to myself

for I am worthy of love and kindness.

Let me will emerge from this difficult time

with my health and spirit intact

with loving kindness for myself.

for I am worthy of love and kindness.

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